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Sorry for the rant, I'm just wondering if any of you can relate to my situation:
My entire life I was forced to do things I didn't want to do - nonstop extracurricular classes, sports, school events, etc. I was that one "overachieving" kid who went to karate, softball, soccer, took piano lessons, altar served at the local church, volunteered and much more on top of that. Except I wasn't an "overachiever." I hated it all. I had no choice to get out of any of these things as I grew up with very strong minded Cuban parents. I remember resenting having to do all these things and never enjoying a single one of them. I would always be the kid who fucked off. Well, as it turns out, because I was forced to do so many things I hated, I didn't take the time to focus on myself and do the things I wanted to do. And now, as an adult, I've found myself dealing with crippling depression and a complete lack of discipline. I want to enjoy my life. I want to WANT to do things in the world. But I just can't bring myself to break out of this mindset. I feel like because I was forced to do so many things I didn't want to, now that I'm out in the real world I have absolutely NO motivation to do ANYTHING at all. Deep down, this isn't how my inner self truly feels. I have ideas and plans to kick some ass in this world. I'm just stuck and I'm finding myself struggling very much with simple every day things. It takes so much mental effort to just be able to do anything. Simple things like going to the store or even taking a shower take ungodly amounts of mental effort. This isn't a cry for help, I'm just asking for any advice from this community. I want help with breaking out of this mindset.submitted by /u/ohpsies to r/offmychest
Heey my dudes. My names Mira(if you couldn’t guess), I’m 17(Hekin duh), and I am lookin for some lit friends to make time better. I play Softball and Tennis. I’m like one of the most competitive people I know. I don’t like like music, but I can really get into sharing songs and bands I like. I LOVE to read, paint, draw, and sleeping. I’m kinda a movie nerd, who loves watching the cooking channel and house selling shows. Now, for real, I’m liking for a friend. I DO NOT want to be somebodies therapist, nor do I want one. Friends are supposed to help, yeah, but not be a frikin counselor(sorry, but that that). Other than that, I will take you how you are! So like, fam, come at me bro.submitted by /u/MiraIsHerea to r/Needafriend
The launch was fantastic in terms of menu speed and fluidity while the servers were up. Hell even when they went down, they were back up swiftly and overall the menus and screens feel nearly flawless. However, gameplay wise there are definite issues. I’ve only been playing for three hours but in this time I can see that hitting is way too easy. Power is going to need a nerf and/or pitch speed is going to need a drastic increase. Not the recorded speed but the speed we see. I feel like I’m in an adult softball league against some pitchers and then it’s actually a 98 MPH fastball in reality. It’s ridiculously easy to turn on an inside fastball in this game compared to the past. Fielding feels iffy but I’m not confident in my opinion on that because I’m using pretty meh players, so I’ll hold off on that for now. However, hitting is way to easy especially considering I’m using these meh players and still destroying baseballs. The skill gap just feels lower is what I’m getting at. Last but not least, whats with the getting golds in diamond rounds of BR?submitted by /u/Instinctzop to r/MLBTheShow
Ok I'm going to take a risk here and share my story in the hope of gaining some support and accountability to change. My initial testing of the waters does not inspire me with much hope that I'll be able to get the non-judgmental support I'm hoping for, but I'm so tired of trying, and failing on my own that I'm going to put myself out there anyway.
I'll try and sum up my story without writing a novel, lay out a plan and ask for constructive feedback.
I'm a 43yo married father of five (ages 15 through to 18 months), professional guy, who spends a lot of time at home with the family. I'm a deacon in our church and coach my daughter' softball team. Our youngest son is disabled with a genetic disorder requiring a lot of therapy. My relationship with my wife I would describe as a best friends, a good team in looking after our family, but lacking in passion and affection. However it's far from a completely "dead bedroom" and I will not make any excuses or blame my behaviour on my wife in any way.
I have, over the past 15 years, from time to time be unfaithful in various ways. Internet chatting, sensual massages, brief flings, through to seeking out affair partners on various websites, with varying degrees of "success" - in between I have had periods of years/months where I have not pursued things. In recent times though the intensity of the affairs has increased and the down time in between has reduced. And now I feel totally out of control. For the first time I am seeing two women physically, and am chatting to numerous others. Last night I found myself chatting to yet another one - an older married woman that I don't even really find very attractive, yet was tempted by her offer to meet up today (in fact she's messaging me even as I write this). My normal levels of caution and paranoia seem to be flagging a little as well.
What's been my flaw, my motivation for doing all this? I don't think I could easily say, except that it's a weakness within me, a perverse need for some kind of validation and excitement, that has now spiralled into some form of addiction. My common sense, my morals, my conscience - all these mechanisms that should protect me against such a potentially destructive path - all all critically weakened.
So this is where I am, waking up to just what an out of control piece of shit I am. None of the good stuff I do at work, home, or elsewhere in any way counterbalances my disgusting behaviour. I need a plan, and I need support.
Here's the beginnings of my plan :
I need to farewell all my chat partners and tell them the truth - that I am trying to straighten myself out and need to not be in contact any more. If I use another excuse or just "ghost" away then that leaves the door potentially ajar to reopen. Those doors need to be sealed shut.
I need to then delete permanently all my chat apps and online accounts connected to this behaviour - with the exception of this new one created specifically for the purpose of recovery/accountability.
I need to throw myself even further into my home life and being the best supportive and loving father and husband I can.
I need to avoid idleness, avoid all possible triggers and sources of temptation back in this direction
I need to reawaken my spiritual life
I need to recommit to all my hobbies and positive activities in my life.
I need to be held accountable - which is what I am seeking.
I need to work at discovering more about why I have become this person, so I can start to improve the deep flaws within to try and prevent it happening again and gain.
Caveats : (a) I have no intention of confessing and consequently blowing up my family. I'm aware of the strong feelings and rationale in favour of owning up, but at least for now it is not something I will consider. Please respect that and don't condemn or judge me too harshly for it.
(b) I accept that I would certainly benefit from some intense, sustained counselling therapy, but at this point in time I have no capacity to access that.
TL;DR - I'm an out of control serial cheater at crisis point - seeking support and accountability to try and cease this behaviour for good before it permanently destroys my family. Would love to hear suggestions, questions, and constructive advice but please don't be too judgemental (I can do that on myself)submitted by /u/petercheetah to r/SurvivingMyInfidelity