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Single guys who says that Arranged Marriage is going to "save" them, is a major cope. What do you guys think about this?

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 19:11

Recently, I saw a post on some Indian sub where a guy, 25, was talking about how he doesn't have/had any experience in dating till now and is feeling depressed and demotivated because of that.

Under the post there were saveral comments of guys, saying things like

"Arranged Marriage for the win"

"Bhai mummy dhoondh legi"

"Work on yourself and wait for arranged marriage"

And so on and so forth.

I don't know if it is just me or not, but makes you think that if a girl/women isn't choosing you to be her boyfriend, why would she choose you to be her husband? And even if she does, don't you think your lack of experience will cause your marriage to ultimately fail (happening often these days, especially in metro cities)?

I just feel like this is a major coping mechanism for guys like us who aren't liked by anyone.

Moreover, I don't really think, dating is all about how good looking, successfull, hygienic or social you are or how good of a personality you have built, because I have seen tons of guys without NOTA and still being in a relationship.

It is primarily based on luck. You get to date a girl/women only if she likes you. If she doesn't, then nothing will happen and you will either end up bitter after getting rejected or in friendzone after being overtly "nice".

If you want to be successfull, hygienic, social or well dressed/presentable or have a great personality, be or have those things for yourself and not in the hopes that it will somehow make some girl/women fall for you.

These factors come into play later, once she has liked at least something about you.

This isn't a rant, but more of an analysis and personal thought process, I wanted to share.

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Toyota now has two different hybrid system for their higher-end/performance models. Which system is better and will ultimately prevail?

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 19:11

The first one is the one we are seeing proliferating through their TNGA-F body-on-frame truck/SUV as well as some other models. Those have turbocharged 4-or 6-cylinder mated to a traditional torque-converter 6/8/10-speed with an electric motor sandwiched between them. This gives you the most feeling of traditional vehicle (appeal to traditional enthusiasts) however the fuel-economy gain is very miniscule.

The other one which is less known is only equipped on LS/LC 500h. This has traditional Toyota hybrid system except the e-CVT is also connected to 4-speed automatic transmission to give you the feeling of stepped automatic. Result is that despite having less horsepower than its TT V6 or V8 counterpart it can accelerate just as fast with much better MPG to boot (so it probably has more torque??).

Which will ultimately win out? Knowing Toyota they probably like the latter for fuel-efficiency gains however, combining e-CVT plus 4-speed automatic means the setup is rather long, can only be applied to longditudunal rear-wheel-drive applications. Former on the other hand, while MPG is not impressive can also be adapted to transverse front-wheel-drive really increasing flexcibility. So maybe latter?

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Pacing plan for first marathon

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 19:11

Hey everyone,

With my first marathon just around the corner this Saturday, I'm seeking some advice on pacing. I've put in the training, so I'm hoping I'm ready, but there's always that bit of uncertainty, right?

Here's where I'm at - I don't have a specific time goal, but ideally, I'd like to finish under 4:30. Ultimately, though, my primary aim is just to complete the race.

I'm contemplating two approaches:

  1. Stick to the what I've done during my long training runs, which is to run on feel at an easy-ish effort. If all goes smoothly, this should see me finish comfortably under 4:30.
  2. Alternatively, I'm considering setting up a Pacepro plan on my Garmin watch.

However, I'm a bit torn. I worry that adhering to a pacing plan might take away from the experience of my first marathon. Plus, there's the uncertainty of whether I could stick to it for the entire distance, given that I've never run that far before.

Has anyone faced a similar dilemma or have any insights to share? Your advice would be much appreciated!

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Best Gaming Laptop of 2024 So Far...

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 19:10

I'm currently on the hunt for the ultimate gaming laptop of 2024. I'm interested in what is currently available or coming soon on the market, and I'm seeking anyone's collective wisdom and expertise.

I'm fortunate to not have a budget constraint, so I'm open to exploring all options, from the top-of-the-line models to any hidden gems that might have emerged in the gaming laptop market recently.

My main priorities revolve around top-notch performance, cutting-edge graphics capabilities, efficient cooling systems to handle intense gaming sessions, and any innovative features that might enhance the gaming experience. Portability is also a factor, as I often find myself gaming on the go.

I'm reaching out to this community because I value diverse perspectives and real-world experiences. So, whether you're a seasoned gamer, a tech enthusiast, or someone with insider knowledge of the latest trends in gaming laptops, I'd love to hear your recommendations, insights, and feedback.

Your thoughts, experiences, and recommendations are not just valuable, they are crucial in guiding my decision. I truly appreciate your input and look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you all in advance for your time and assistance. I'm eagerly looking forward to your responses.

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Future nurse with an interest in moving to KSA.

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 19:10

Hello everyone, I am from the states (born and bred) and I have been pondering on something that has been brought to my attention by non-Saudis that live, have lived, or studied in KSA -- discrimination/racism. All the individuals I know are from an array of backgrounds. For instance a British Somali guy that studied at a university in Saudi mentions his uncle and him experiencing discriminatory behavior at a cafe by a Saudi women and man. A Yemeni guy I know that studied here at GWU states that in Saudi Arabia there were hospitals strictly for Saudis. Another individual that was born and raised in Saudi Arabia and is of Afghani origins mentions it being extremely difficult to find a job in Saudi and states that preference is given to Saudis. I was aware to a degree about the treatment of migrants from under-resourced countries in Saudi, but I wasn't aware of the divide that seemingly exist. I would say that I am finding myself hesitant on whether it'd be ethical of me to move to a country that does not provide equal opportunity not saying that America is any different (I am Latina) so I can empathize with the plight. Nonetheless, I would ultimately like to move to a country that is at least more ethical than the states. In all honesty, I have always had my eye on Saudi Arabia or Oman. I've also visited Saudi and I am not gonna lie I THROUGHLY ENJOYED IT. I loved the sister-hood I found and the sense of community that I feel is lacking here in the states. Bare in mind that I am not religious.

It's also surprising that the individual I was dating here, a Saudi studying at a local university would swear up and down that racism does not exist in Saudi. I knew that preferential treatment existed and I saw, heard, and learned of it first hand, but this seems to be an ongoing topic more than ever. Do Saudi's not notice the discrimination or care about it or i.e. is it normalized. I having difficulties understanding why this hasn't been addressed further or mentioned more-so, especially when many of the young ladies I built a sisterhood with in Saudi are half-Saudi and half-Indian.

I guess give it to me straight, naturally I wouldn't move to a country without staying there a month or so but I would like to get an unbiased perspective. I will also return for a second time in a few months so I can gauge the climate again.

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I can’t get into fallout 4

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 19:10

Like the title says I can’t. I mean it’s a fun game I will hop on and play a few missions but ultimately go play something else after an hour. I’m at the part where you first go to diamond city and can anybody tell me if it gets better or I should just quit.

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Shader messing with Skyweave

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 16:07

Does anybody know a fix for this kind of problem? Maybe disabling the shader for that single block?

The Blocks are Skyweave from Ars Noveau.

Playing Cisco's Fantasy Medievil RPG [Ultimate] (Version V3c)
Minecraft Version 1.19.2

Shader turned on (no Skybox visible)

Shader turned off (Skybox visible trough blocks)

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I don't want happiness for anyone. I just want to be reasonable.

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 16:07

I was molested by my fifteen year old neighbor when I was eight. Because it wasn't your typical situation, I was actually hoping she would of been my wife. Fast forward a few years later, we moved apart and when she came back into my life -- I was then sixteen and in my first real relationship with another victim of what I would now consider to be rape.

I broke up with her shortly after and began to have an emotional crisis because our relationship was founded on meaningless sex and when I looked at when my neighbor did what she had, I began to see certain cycles repeating.

So, I started looking into statistics -- started talking to my folks, ask if they were molested, come to find... yea. Both of their mothers and both of my parents were victims of rape.

And I'm growing up in Irvine at the time -- walking around seeing old Asian men smack their wives, or hearing them beat each other through the walls when I lived in apartments/connected condos, thinking about when my first real partner cheated on me -- thinking about how I forgave her because I was just a stupid child who was hoping to gain some real world experience.

And I started to think about all the racial stigmas we have about each other and how I've seen these echo across all ethnicities -- and of course, I've been wondering how many of the people pushing these lazy thoughts have pointed that finger back at people close to them or related to them for that matter.

Well, somewhere along the way through my existential crisis -- I was reading about Siddartha.

And at the time, I was exercising for eight hours a day, practicing calligraphy, taking speech and debate club, doing acting, etc... tl;dr -- being groomed for a level of success that I ultimately wasn't able to handle.

And then I snapped. I felt like I wasn't in my own head. I couldn't sleep for days on end. I was now a visitor to my own life and all of that used to make me golden, was smothered in shit -- and I was quickly becoming poison.

I'd developed epilepsy from excessive sleep deprivation, they took me to the docs, they gave me the drugs that erased my ability to be there -- I weened myself off the drugs due to a deep mistrust of a system that didn't seem to care, fell into insanity -- became homeless, fell from my parents insurance, couldn't get the medical help I needed because they don't care for you when you're here -- and its been down hill ever since.

I've no kids, I've only ever been with three women, I've found it insanely easy to connect to people -- even easier to do everything I've ever done -- and with these easy connections, comes great pain. So, to avoid passing on my insanity -- I've quarantined myself.

Yes, there is a lot of information that is necessary to make a lot of this make sense -- but I'm thirty years old now, homeless, and am labeled a drug addict. At best I am a malnourished soon-to-be ALS patient slipping into nothing.

But while I've been slowly killing myself, I've traveled around the continent -- every state and most of mexico and some of Canada -- I see a lot of the same trash I see here, over there, and in myself I also see you guys.

Sorry for the rough story telling but I've been struggling with my own personal guilt conflated against a world that doesn't seem to be much better and yeah it's pretty shitty of me to put that on you guys because "just because of X doesn't mean Y is true, what about the exceptions to the rules"

But I'm sorry I'm homeless. I'm sorry my family and the government/quacks denies my disease. I'm sorry that I've never been able to keep it together.

I wish I became a drug addict, at least then -- you guys could of been right about me.

I don't want to live anymore. I've lived a relatively full life I think at least for someone in my position...

Mom's dead. Dad lost his shit. Sister doesn't wanna talk. Rest of my family is pretentious religious zealots. Or worse. My friends are all the scum of society apparently. So too must I be.

And the one woman besides my mom who ever treated me like a real human I had to push away because she was and is bound for success.

Fuck you all. Fuck me. Wish the rats would feast on me. I just want peace of mind.

I was never suicidal for all of my life -- I don't think I'm suicidal now, but I don't want to be alive anymore, but I don't want to be dead.

I look around me and the people who have their houses and etc, are starting to do things that remind me of when I lost my cool, and its freaking me out.

I wish I didn't smell like shit. I wish I wasn't afraid to reach out for help. I wish I had a job. I wish I had money. I wish my mom was still alive. I wish everyone was cool again. Or rather, I wish I was young and stupid again, oblivious to what I think very few people can see.

And please, don't be kind to me. Don't offer me advice. Don't anything. Just take from me what you can, and move on. Like everything else and everyone else will, for everything and everyone else -- unrelated and related to me.

Be well. Be better. You guys have so much more going for you, you could be me. You could be worse than me.

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[TOMT] Spanish language movie about a neighborhood looking for gold/treasure

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 16:07

Not sure it was from Mexico or Spain or possibly another Latin country, but the films premise was about a neighborhood full of different characters ultimately trying to find/fighting over a treasure of some kind, possibly gold. It was a comedy, the characters were ridiculous and crude and there were lots of s-x and nudity scenes. I believe at the end of the movie the town/treasure blows up somehow. I saw the movie in the early/mid 00’s so it could be from that time or older. Thanks for any help!

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One Piece Rotated Earth Theory- from a Geoscientist perspective

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 16:07

Hi! I've been a One Piece fan for over a decade, and I love the conversations regarding the Earth in this story potentially not being correctly orientated. This obviously isn't a complete theory that has originated from many before me, but I can provide some scientific rationale for the conversation that may help.

Throughout the One Piece story, there's been a lot of evidence to suggest that the One Piece world has been rotated 90 degrees so that the magnetic north doesn't align with the true north (ex. Jaya birds, map orientations, whale migratory patterns, etc.). Lots of evidence for that has been laid out before, so I'm not going to get into all of that here. But I DID want to talk about what would happen if the Earth rotated back 90 degrees, making the Grand Line run North to South and the Red Line along the equator.

Our own Earth isn't perfectly spherical- the rotation of the Earth causes a centrifugal force, causing the planet to bulge out along the equator where the rotation is the fastest (called the equatorial bulge). As a result, along the equator, the relative sea level is higher in this area. If the One Piece planet has been rotated 90 degrees, that would mean that the sea is artificially higher along the Grand Line (where the are now a bunch of small islands where people live) compared to the rest of the 'true ocean', and is potentially covering space in the Grand Line that was once an exposed continent that people lived on. This would explain both why there are ruins of towns on the sea floor, and why the Grand Line ocean area is so turbulent.

If the Earth had been rotated, the entire ocean circulation would have been suddenly disrupted, and the water passing over this newly-covered Grand Line would be a lot shallower than the real ocean depths around it, denoted by the Calm Belt edge. This water would be very turbulent, and explain some of the extremely rough seas in the Grand Line. The best analogy to this is water circulation patterns formed by white waters (and used in white water rafting). The water then running into this comparatively higher piece of continental crust along its sides wouldn't have anywhere to go, and not generate currents or even potentially large wind patterns (think of Backwaters in rivers).

The sudden rotation of the planet would also explain the variations in weather patterns and magnetic fields of the different exposed islands along the Grand Line. After being rotated so suddenly, their magnetic fields would be completely out of sync with the planet, as well as with the larger thermohaline circulation patterns (deep ocean currents that are huge drivers for temperature and salt circulation patterns). With the disruption of these currents, continental areas (now islands) that may have once received colder, deeper circulation waters are now getting warmer ones, and vice versa. Combined with magnetic anomalies, this could be the cause of the crazy weather patterns seen on many of the islands visited, and why the special Log Pose compasses are needed for navigation.

If the Earth was rotated back 90 degrees, this would have huge implications for reconnecting the world and the four Blues. To start, the theorized connecting continent along the Grand Line would be exposed as the equatorial bulge was relocated, and the many islands along it would be reconnected together. There also wouldn't be the deadly and harsh waters of the Grand Line and the Calm Belts separating people, allowing them to come together (one step closer to the 'All Blue' goal). This would also allow many of the Straw Hat crew to fulfill their own dreams.

At the same time, this theory alone doesn't explain why the Red Line exists. However, just by looking at it, it's clear that the Red Line is not natural to the world around it and has been raised from the ocean floor (cliff-like edges, lack of natural life, etc.). This act alone would have caused a huge displacement of water and tsunamis, and ultimately may have been the cause of a prior flood, or the first 'cleansing'. However, the Red Line's existence may make better sense in the broader picture of the world nobles and Gorosei.

This also all then begs the natural questions of why, how, and by whom.

I think the 'whom' side of this is the easiest to speculate on and kind of answers the other two questions. Imu. All of the other Gorosei are shown to be other planetary Gods that have immense power yet have chosen to make Imu their ruler. None of them seen like they would want to give up such a ruling power that they could control themselves so easily UNLESS Imu already had the same planetary power, but for Earth. If Imu had such a powerful Earth-controlling power, he most likely was the individual responsible for either raising the Red Line or rotating the Earth 90 degrees.

The Red-Line-raising and the Earth-rotating actions could be theorized in either order, with Oda potentially rationalizing it either way. The raising of the Red Line to encompass the Tree of Eve, blocking sunlight and thus hope to the now disconnected masses could have caused enough turmoil to rotate the Earth, but an easier explanation is the opposite order of events. Imu could have rotated the Earth 90 degrees to flood the major Grand Line continent and kill the masses in a first-strike flood, then followed by the raising of the Red Line. This would have enclosed the Tree of Eve, given his loyal "Celestials" a place to live, given the Gorosei a place to live away from prying eyes, and broken up the ocean into four distinct Blues. This tactical move would have separated the people and made them easier to control (for what is power if you have no one to rule over). However unclear, it is easily concluded that the Red Line needs to be destroyed to free the Tree of Eve and connect the people of the world.

By rotating back the Earth 90 degrees and destroying the Red Line (post-Imu defeat), Luffy could fulfill many of his own dreams and those of his crew.

However, most importantly, this theory could potentially be rationalized by Oda to a broad audience in a limited number of panels, which would go something as follows: 1) Imu is the Earth God, and can control the tectonics of the planet. 2) During the time of Joyboy, Joyboy or someone affiliated got too close to finding out the truth of the Gorosei so a great world cleansing was initiated. 3) To prevent this from happening again, Imu rotated the Earth and raised the Red Line, separating the people and killing many more. 4) Raising the Red Line gave the Gorosei somewhere to live away from the people, which they also extended to the Celestials. 5) The Celestials were just people or a kingdom that sided with the Gorosei during this fight and were thus granted a place to live in the "Holy Land of Mariejoa". 6) To reconnect the people, Imu/some power must be forced to reorient the Earth. 7) The Red Line must be destroyed.

I would love to hear your thoughts on the matter, and see what people think (either in favor-of or against)!

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[WTS] LaRue 18” Stealth upper/Vortex Opmod Strike Eagle/YHM QD flash hider

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 13:15

Timestamp: https://imgur.com/a/cTG5mJ0

LaRue Stealth Upper/18”/ less than 500 rounds/some salt but only from bouncing around in the side by side. Magpul hands top kit included. This is not one of the ultimate upper kits. Go see how much one of these quads costs now and holler at me. $750 shipped

Vortex Strike Eagle. Opmod. With throw lever/flip caps/box/. $200 shipped

YHM QD flash hider. Same round count. $50

Want it all? $900.

PayPal/Venmo/G&S on your dime

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Upcoming Conquest update news

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 13:15

With the v6.0.0 update comes the long awaited Conquest update to Tap Ninja!

Embark on establishing your settlement and conquering the enemy provinces while earning varying rewards from your spoils

Build it

On this new island you will be tasked with constructing multiple buildings to help in your conquest efforts. Some of the buildings include:

  • Castle - your main bastion, advancing rest of the buildings
  • School - a place to study new technologies through different branches
  • Tavern - the hangout where heroes meet for new adventures

Each of these buildings can be levelled up, improving their effects. Be wary that gold is no good in constructing lasting buildings, so materials of Lumber and Ore will have to be harvested for their use in constructing these buildings.

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Conquer it

The island is covered with enemy Provinces and Towns within, your job is to conquer them all. Each of the town's levels will award you with multiple rewards while conquering the whole province will award you with a more substantial reward which can include a boost to your Ninjas Elixir income, award more daily currency or even unlock another daily Quest slot.

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Heroes assemble

How do you conquer these towns? Your ninja can’t do it all alone, so Heroes have to be recruited for aid in this task. Recruiting happens with Scrolls similarly to how Pet summoning works.

Heroes come in many shapes and sizes, so each hero is divided into a class, a faction and a rarity.

  • The class determines what the hero's role on the field is with the available classes being a Warrior, a Mage, an Assassin & Support.
  • The faction determines its strength and weakness against corresponding factions, the factions being Fire, Wind, Earth & Water.
  • The rarity shows how many skills the hero has. Rare only has an Ultimate, Epic has an Ultimate and a passive while Legendary has an Ultimate and two passives.

The heroes battlefield strength is determined by its Star level and Hero level with the Star level being gained during the recruitment (which can be upgraded afterwards). The Hero level on the other hand uses Hero Exp, which is gained through conquering towns and passively from the Training Grounds building.

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What of my ninja?

The base game is not forgotten and is receiving multiple updates including:

  • Upgrade Tier 15
  • New Ascension skills
  • New achievements
  • 3 new pets
  • Unlockable tints for each pet and their skins
  • And more!

https://preview.redd.it/36b4q4r8s9xc1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=710140b89c09a6961d771a107d20d003695d0b48

Now what?

The update is big and comparable to a new side game being added to Tap Ninja, but the work on it is going very well and a public beta test will be available on Steam for everyone in around 24 days with the full release of the update coming roughly two weeks afterwards, if no delays occur.

Each day leading to the beta test will have a small tease about each of the upcoming heroes, so keep following for more updates in this post - https://steamcommunity.com/app/1891700/discussions/0/4361249719396183109/

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Anyone thinking of going on T Gel psa

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 13:15

This is just a thing I wanna put out because I’m on T gel and I really like it. If you’re thinking of going on T gel the major cons are: consistency of application, transfer, and absorption. I am on T gel and I’m getting all of my desired effects, but I have to put it on twice a day 12 hours apart. T Gel it is not worse than shots in my opinion and it is not a bad choice. A personal tip if you put Shea butter over the gel once it’s dried it helps with transfer cause the gel now has a top layer barrier. It will also keep the gel on your skin to help with absorption. Ultimately whatever T you wanna be on is what’s best for you, but I see a fair amount of Gel hate and I just wanted to defend it a little.

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Does it get better…?

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 13:15

I’m currently on a rewatch of all the housewives franchises. I’ve just stared Potomac for the first time. I’m midway through season 2 and I’m finding it kinda boring. Yes there’s lots of bitchiness, cattiness and all that good stuff but the subject matter is very surface level. I don’t find the arguments entertaining rather silly and tiring.

Please can someone tell me if it gets better, do I need to slug it out? Or shall I skip to Miami?

Edit: I’ve watched NY twice, NJ twice, BH twice, Atlanta and recently finished SLC for the first time (which I LOVED). Trying to get to know all the franchises so I know who they are when I watch Ultimate Girls Trip lol.

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I (30M) recently single after a 12 years relationship, have been set up with a coworker (26F). Help, i'm lost.

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 13:15

Hello, I apologize in advance this will be a VERY long text, and I’m not a native English speaker
First a bit of context about me:

I (30M) have separated from my ex-girlfriend (30F) a year ago, as she left for Japan for 6 month, then 9, then never to return again. We had been together for 13 years.
Over this year I’ve reached the lowest point of my life, until I, and her I guess, progressively understood we had no future together. I drowned myself into work and relied on close friends and eventually started to feel a bit better.

Two month ago she finally came back to have a last talk with me and the rest of her family, she took back some of her belongings but ultimately left me to deal with the remnants of our past life.

Today I live alone, progressively digging through our things and packing what’s Her’s t for her mother to take away sometime next month (we live far away and both of us work). Most of my friends are work colleagues.

Now for the actual thing I need advice about:

A month ago, while I was working at my desk besides two close colleague-friends, a lab technician (26F), came to one of them to ask for their approval about a problem she had. I was absorbed by my own work, but was more or less aware of their conversation. I made a snarky comment about her situation (nothing offensive). My colleagues laughed and so did she.
I lifted my eyes from my screen and was taken by surprise by how beautiful she was. I gazed at her for a second or so until I collected my spirits. I don’t think she could tell, but my friends / colleagues, who know me very well, noticed my interest, and poked me about it for the next hour or so.
I never thought I would see her again as I left for a two week holyday back to my family.

When I got back, I had almost forgotten about this encounter, but my colleagues had not ,and in the meantime, they had established she was single and they involved her manager (yeah I know this is borderline unethical) to make us meet again:
Me and my colleagues all have the same job, but we have our preferred domains. The beautiful lab technician’s work doesn’t normally fall into my perimeter, though I am perfectly able to deal with it.

One of my colleagues asked me to take care of a small matter in their name, I accepted but still enquired about why they needed me to, as things have been a bit slow lately. I noticed they were hiding something from me and pressed on. They finally explained me that they set this up with her manager so we would meet again. I’m a bit of a straight arrow so I was slightly angry at first but eventually accepted because :
A- She was unaware and wouldn’t feel uneasy about the situation
B- I would most likely end up thinking she was stupid (yes, I’m also a bit of an arrogant asshole, and very few people find grace in my eyes) which would end this nonsense.
C- I am a mere mortal, and wanted to see her again

The meeting came on, and it went good, I’m now aware that she also is smart and funny. More problems for me I guess, but I didn’t intend to do anything more for the time being. She had been nice and friendly, we even lost our subject for a bit and talked about other things.
That’s when things go south: When she came back from the meeting, her manager spilled the beans. One of my conspirator colleagues spoke with her, and she told them that she had a bit of second thoughts about it (you don’t say?? Playing matchmaker for one of your subordinates?) and they were told two things:
A- The beautiful lab tech was told BEFORE our meeting that I might have a crush on her and still came and acted friendly and nice towards me.
B- She was not taken aback by her manager’s revelation, did not exhibit anything that would suggest she’s angry (and we had every right to be in my eyes)

And here I stand now, wondering what to do. I feel like I should apologize to her, and still ask her out.
PS: This event happened on Friday morning. On Friday afternoon, a girl I don’t know and has no reason to, checked my linkedin (nobody ever does except head hunters), I found out they are the same age from the same school…

PPS: I am not, in anyway a hierarchic superior of the beautiful lab tech. i just represent some kind of authority over most decisions and people have to seek my approval in many matters.

Help me please. I really don’t want to fuck this up, i really feel like getting to know her a bit better over a date, but it feels like i'm not entirely ready. Give me advice on my next step please.

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Fantasia On Bent Knee

Ultimate Reddit - Sun, 04/28/2024 - 13:15

Sorry under the macroscope
But plant nanos of dope
With pocket-sand from Samarqand
Sam I ain't, perhaps Pan I am
Or Dionysus, more handy manually
Abandon hope, if you can stand to be
Buried under panoply
Ultimate fright, sets you free

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